This is a very emotional topic.
"Family" ... Is THE PACK a "Family"?
I think there are alot of Family-
Like qualities to the way we treat each other around here...
...for example, alot of the ranting going on in this thread reminds me a bit of the way my brother and I used to fight before we moved apart. ...and we would fight ALOT...though we love each other very much.
However, I don't think I would really call this group a Family. The similarities are there...but the relationships are very different. ...and there are
SO MANY of us...
I guess I could say I am one of the 'Elder' counsel that has been here since this groups beginnings. I would be lying if I said this doesn't make me feel a little
arrogant sometimes. I am quick to tell others what they can or can-not do or say, and am less afraid to call judgement on other members when I dissaprove of thier
implied attitudes than I was back when I still felt like just another "John Doe" face in the crowd.
Out of this
arrogance I have said things that I never should have said...or at least should have been more considerate and forgiving about. I have no right to behave that way...and I'm very sorry.
...however, one of the reasons why I take such a firm stance on some issues
(even seemingly insignificant things like choices of phrasings of ones opinions) is because
I Too recognise and highly value the unique friendliness and openmindedness I find among this group, and I fight,
('aggresively' at times, and others...just plain 'rudely') to preserve the order, and snuff out the sparks that could potentially grow into a flame-war later on while they are still but insignificant embers,
(like a poor choice of words, or an ill-advised suggestion).
Unfortunately, I've not learned how to stomp out the sparks without stomping on peoples feet at the same time, and some members,
(Old and New) have been getting hurt.
(...oh...and I'm a little too fond of metaphors, which can make me difficult to understand sometimes, as you can see...)
I would like to thank
Teh_DarkJokerWolf for starting this thread and bringing this trend to all of our attention.
I know this thread is not about me,
(at least not Entirely), but I can't help but notice that I have become part of the problem with some of my recent attitudes.
I'll try to not be such a Mean
Big Brother any more in this funny little 'Psudo-Family' of ours that we call "THE PACK".
(Concequently, that was how my fights with my Brother usually went down as well. I was so busy telling him everything he did wrong, trying to teach him to be a better person, that I forgot to just step back and let him be himself sometimes.)
Family or not, we are a colorful bunch of friends tied together by an unconventional common interest, and you know what?...that's Worth something to me, and I wouldn't trade this group for any other in the world.
...Long Live "THE PACK"
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