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I have absolutely no clue what to do...

My fiance had this beautiful black and white cat that she found a little over a year ago. She called him Starbuck, thinking he was a girl, based on Starbuck from the new Battlestar Gallactica TV show, but she kept the name even when we found out he was really a boy. We've had alot of scare swith him in the past, but he's been a very hyper and happy little thing. And in case someone asks, she's in Georgia. I'm in Maryland, so it's a long distant relationship. Sometimes it's hard but I wouldn't give her up for anything.

Most of last week, he'd been getting sick, and we weren't sure what was wrong, so my fiance and her parents took him into the vet. They gave him some medicine, and it seemed to be working, but then he got worse. He wouldn't eat, or drink, or go to the bathroom. So, they took him in today.

I was getting my haircut at the time because my grandpa's birthday is tomorrow. Starbuck had an FIP, and he had to be put to sleep. I wasn't there when it happened, and I didn't get to say goodbye. And my fiance's a wreck right now, and so am I. I can't even be down there for her, when she needs me. And she's been going through too much at the moment, with a death in the family literally a few days ago. And it's not fair. It's not fair that even with everything she'd been going through, she had to lose Starbuck.

He was our baby, and now he's gone, and I'm crying while writing because I can't believe it. He was so young, just a little over a year old, had such a long life ahead of him. We want him back, but he's gone, and there's nothing we can do about it.

I had to get this off my chest, it's been eating at me all day since I found out and I'm so glad I found this place. My condolences to everyone who has had to suffer a loss like this. It's a pain that no one deserves to experience. But I believe that somewhere, he's found peace. It's one of the few things keeping me sane right now.

maybe you should talk to fredricksam. he recently lost his dog, keno.
also,i feel for you. i had a gerbil not too long ago, and it had a stroke and died.

still, it's good to know that you believe that he has found peace. optimism and hope are always good in times of trouble.

just remember 2 things: he is in a better place now, and all of us here in the pack are with you

Ah man, I'm soo sorry!

It always sucks when a pet dies. I know your pain. I had some very close pets die.

Wow, that must be so awful. She lost someone in her family and now she lost her best freind pet. I dont care what anyone says, losing a pet thats close to you is as bad as losing a family member.

sorry for your loss.........just need to remember the good and press on.....rejoice in the happy times you had......

My condolances as well. Thank you for sharing our respect for life on Earth.

I agree. My cat died in june, and we had her for seven years. Try to remove the sorrow with the knowledge that you and your pet had good times together and that he was happy untill he died; there are so many stray cats- he could as easily have been one of them.

Im very sorry about Starbuck. Its hard losing someone your close to, I know. But you'll be OK. Talk about the good times. Think about the wonderful life Starbuck did have because your fiance took him in.

Im dreadfully sorry for your loss. Moonkit is right. Starbuck would probably rather you talked about the good memories rather than the bad.

For example...

Did Starbuck like coffee?

Cats can tell when you're sad, and Starbuck is probably still watching you, wherever he is. So embrace the happy times. I've lost a few feline family members in my time. It's never pretty, some died young, others died old. But I always remember why I loved them so much. It's difficult to get rid of pain, but letting it out is the best thing you can do.

Starbuck knows he's loved