If someone likes something...

cumulusprotagonist · Post by **cumulusprotagonist** » Sun May 27, 2007 2:55 pm

Sometimes when people do not like a book, a movie, a song, an activity, etc...
They say nasty things about it...

Is anyone ever just happy with the fact that at least someone else enjoys it?

(I am talking about things that do NOT hurt other people! Discomfort is not necessarily the same thing...Sometimes people feel uncormfatable when they really should not be.
A cerain style of music can make someone feel uncomfortable.)

When people get nasty and fight over something like a song is this not selfish?

MattSullivan · Post by **MattSullivan** » Sun May 27, 2007 5:04 pm

Some people have a natural inclination to complain about everything. I happen to think those are very annoying people. Opinions are fine, but I know far too many people who just hate damn near everything. And it's a very repellant trait. After a while, you just wanna tell that person, "GOD, SHUT UP ALREADY!"

Teh_DarkJokerWolf · Post by **Teh_DarkJokerWolf** » Sun May 27, 2007 6:16 pm

Yea..I'm guilty of doing that at times, but not all the time..I know it's damn annoying too..It's been done to me, but hell I guess that's called karma..I'm sure everyone has done it before..

Scott Gardener · Post by **Scott Gardener** » Sun May 27, 2007 9:38 pm

I have learned not to spend too much time around people who focus too much perpetually on negatives. They can be a bit depleating on one's sense of will. Rather, it is good to keep company with people who radiate more positivity.

It's a bit hard, though, when you work in an ER. People are there because things have gone wrong, and therefore by design they must focus on the negative. That, and when dysfunctional people need the ER more frequently than functional people, the law of averages further concentrates negativity. It's quite a trick to tune it out without tuning out the people generating it, especially when their needs are often pretty severe, even at times life-threatening, and it's my job to pay attention.

One thing that helps is getting out more often.

lupine · Post by **lupine** » Mon May 28, 2007 1:35 am

Scott Gardener wrote:I have learned not to spend too much time around people who focus too much perpetually on negatives. They can be a bit depleating on one's sense of will. Rather, it is good to keep company with people who radiate more positivity.

It's a bit hard, though, when you work in an ER. People are there because things have gone wrong, and therefore by design they must focus on the negative..

Just by doing what you and your colleagues are doing (working in ER)
you are cancelling out the negatives, or at very least, giving it a bloody good shot! By doing what you do, you are radiating 'positive'. You are trying to remedy 'negative'. Respect to you for that dude. *bows head*

Morkulv · Post by **Morkulv** » Mon May 28, 2007 8:40 am

When I don't like something I only say my opinion to warn other people for risking to be disappointed.

Terastas · Post by **Terastas** » Mon May 28, 2007 11:07 am

Morkulv wrote:When I don't like something I only say my opinion to warn other people for risking to be disappointed.

*nods* Whenever I dislike something, I try to phrase my comments as constructive criticism, IE: focus not so much on what's bad as how it could be better.

I can't stand it when people just say someone or something "sucks" because it's nonconstructive, unimaginative, and more or less implies that they are the final authority on anything and their time is too valuable to have to justify themselves. I use the word myself sometimes, but I always say something "sucks because. . ." I can take criticism as long as it's based on something.